A Traditional Marriage vs A Christian Marriage

Is the institution of marriage a descendant of a generational institution or a Christian one?
Are we to have the so-called 'fortitude' of the ones before us or follow the precepts of love set in the bible?
I get a little confused by the comparison.
I usually ask people, "are you in a Christian marriage or a traditional marriage"? If you understand the order, you might do differently.
The marriages of the generations before us displayed a union that had many variations and shadows to bible precepts.
The generation of my wife is a property I own and not necessarily an active and equal team player.
You are only as good as I say you are.
I can have one legal wife and as many concubines my pocket change can permit.
You do not have a say when my family matters, like as if you the extended family member.
You don't speak unless spoken to. Just to name a few. 

How can you compare it? Do you still wonder what happened to our generation of marriages? 
We are rebelling against the dysfunction and against the false promises of unity. We are mirroring what we saw, though we promised ourselves we would not. Unlearning and relearning what we would rather be under God.
You have brought forth sons and daughters who struggle through so much childhood trauma, shame, anger and resentment from what marriage was portrayed to be. I wonder if our mothers and fathers can admit that it should have been better. I wonder if they knew any better. Humankind is a work in progress.
Men are unaccountable and women have become more desperate. If it hurts, get help. Pain can be a solid indicator of a malfunction. Don't leave it untreated. 

Where's is our true hope? Is it where we left it, in the shadows? It's in the precept given by God? We have set it aside for our agendas. 
Look at us now! Everyone is bleeding everywhere, on everyone who was not even in the fight and seeking refuge in another. 
Bleeders seeking refuge from those healing, it can be overwhelming. 
Only the truth will make us free. Only the truth. 
If we humble ourselves, turn from our wicked ways and PRAY! Yes, that controversial word pray. Pray for your healing, pray for your strength, pray for wisdom. Pray for direction. Most especially, pray from an evolving mental and safe physical space. 
Let the fear of God be the beginning of the wisdom we need to restore this glorious union called Marriage. 
Think - is the marriage institution more important than the participants therein?

Enough said, 
Truly, 
Modupe IAmDupe, 
I am a women's interests advocate.

Comments

  1. Anonymous13 April 2023 at 08:39

    This thing called culture is actually a cover for subjecting women to slavery n abuse. Times changed but son's n daughters HV BN taught the error as a way of life. Women who question it end up alone with deep questions no one seems ready to answer

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