The Days That Followed After 'Busola'.

When two of your children are fighting God what do you do?

I would have them to sit down, I'll ask them to speak, 

I would ask them to reconcile so that they can both be healed.

One cannot be in denial of their wrongdoing and the other be willing to reconcile, both must be readily honest, open and available for reconciliation. That is when God can minister to both of them, and that is when God can bring change and also fill in the gap and that's when healing can finally take place.

How can one hide behind the premise of grace and yet still be comfortable to do wrong? If one does not acknowledge their wrong, can there be forgiveness for what you do not admit to?

You must identify with your wrong to see beyond. 

 It's hard for someone to apologize when they can't even take ownership of their wrongdoing. They are always waiting for someone else to point it out. They may use their own perspective to deceive themselves. They may be fully unwilling to entertain the perspective of the one they have wronged.

I would like to believe that God draws His children together if both agree. The healing for each participant is a personal choice.

 

God does not love one child over the other or one more than the other. 

Just like rain falls on everyone God's love is available to everyone, but just like people use umbrellas in the rain and some choose to get wet in this same rain by ignoring protection from the umbrella. 

We do have a choice whether to come under the covering of God's love, forgiveness and healing; or whether we choose to stay in the rain, get wet and catch a cold. You know in the end, it's going to show who has not submitted themselves to the covering of God. Pride will destroy you.

We are all accountable here on earth and even in heaven for our actions.

Assuming, this was even a lie. The comments by women who double as enablers are shocking. Even if misogyny wants to keep us mute, how can we not speak to ourselves truthfully? We have a voice and we must use it wisely. We must ask questions and we need to speak truthful answers.

How do we let religion allow us to lose our senses? I am a Jesus - follower and in need of grace by the second. My relationship with Jesus is one I cherish as Jesus is the only constant person in my life.

Please let us sit down and ask ourselves thought-provoking questions. 

- If it were you, what would you do?

- if it were your child, what would you do?

My assumption is you probably can't give a definite answer, you would need time to process it wisely. 

Every person grieves in a unique way, don't judge, simply support or be quiet.

- If it were your spouse or loved one that was accused, what would you do?

- if it were proven true, what would you do?

I am shocked as to the level we have allowed ourselves as women to be treated, it is so degrading. We are accused of pride when we question or have a differing opinion of the status quo.

Just take a deep and close look at the ones who are before us, can you not see? All our mothers have stories that can be made for the big screen.

Does the pain not run deep enough for us to ask questions. We want different. 

There is nothing wrong with us for asking for a change. Yes, we met it like this, but it doesn't mean we must accept it as is. We do not need to continue on the same sted.

WE WERE MADE FOR MORE.

So women, how is it that your husband goes out and returns and he can't account for some of his time in the day?

You don't get truthful answers consistently and yet you support 'your man' blindly. What are we teaching our young girls? You don't even know what your husband does for a living. He is a businessman, what business exactly?

You either don't show interest, don't care as long as you and your children are taken care of. So far he drops money....your time is coming. I am not talking about those who get abused. I am talking about those who simply can't be bothered.

For better for worse? You are vouching for a man whom most of his true character is hidden from you. I suggest you rather be non-verbal and stay that way till you have proof of the opposite.

In this alleged case against Biodun, how many other alleged rape incidents before Busola? How many private reprimands? You have allegedly offended your Christian sister in private, the elders have tried to warn you in the past, allegedly. Now the matter is becoming bigger than you, this rod will not spare you this time in private.  

There is healing for those that seek it, those that don't usually fall away to the ailment of their disease. There is non without sin. It is not a case of, if the glove doesn't fit, you must acquit. 

We all have so much to think about. One thing we can't do though is to turn a blind eye or straddle the fence of truth and justice.

It is a new day for the Nigerian woman. Let us build together and walk alongside each other. Whole man and whole woman. Let's appraise ourselves.

Enough said 

Truly 

Modupe IAmDupe, 

I am a women's interests advocate.