Parent, Loyalty and Society
Parents are our first love, we trust them instinctively. They are our safety net and everything that comes with a child's naivety.
This trust is usually rubbed away by a series of events that erode it to degradation and despair and sometimes suicide in the worst-case scenario.
Why does a parent not trust a child when a child simply trusts a parent, especially when they are vulnerable or in a vulnerable place.
You wonder why as parents you hear things about your children from outside your home.
As a parent and a child myself, I can identify with both ends of the stick.
I struggle with relationships that do not show loyalty or at least maintain it.
My child must never ever for a moment doubt that I'll always be on their side. I hope they know it too.
As parents, do we create the emotional space for our children to come to us no matter what, with no fear of rejection even when there is a valid reason to?
May I submit this for your cerebral musing, most Nigerian parents don't just want to deal. They don't want to be seen on the other side of the fence. They believe they have so much to lose at the expense of the most important things in their lives. (Well, I guess that's dependent on who's concerned).
Parents, what happened to us, what happened to our parents? We need to slow down and ask ourselves really pertinent questions.
We are losing our children.
Yet, we are asked to be quiet, don't speak, let alone speak loudly enough to be heard. What are you ashamed off, what did you compromise?
The beautiful thing about truth is, it will always come out clean in due season. Every truth for its day of reckoning.
The Jones's don't care and yet you think they do.
Why must the victim be left to deal with the shame because you trying to maintain?
When we do well, your pedestal is right in front of the house and when we don't.... (fill in the gap).
Please, please and please; let's take time to talk to our children. Let's not repeat the same mistakes like the ones before us made. Let's not be disconnected from their reality or ours. Let's be willing to learn and relearn.
Your loyalty lies first with God, then your nuclear family. That's what you will be held accountable for.
Please stop burying issues under the carpet, we can see the heap anyway. We can't pretend forever, our children are tripping over all the issues under the carpet.
Our loyalty should not be misplaced.
There are so many qualified clinical counsellors that can help families now. (Please comment below if you know any).
I hope it gets brighter again as your truth shines through.
Enough said,
Truly
Modupe
This trust is usually rubbed away by a series of events that erode it to degradation and despair and sometimes suicide in the worst-case scenario.
Why does a parent not trust a child when a child simply trusts a parent, especially when they are vulnerable or in a vulnerable place.
You wonder why as parents you hear things about your children from outside your home.
As a parent and a child myself, I can identify with both ends of the stick.
I struggle with relationships that do not show loyalty or at least maintain it.
My child must never ever for a moment doubt that I'll always be on their side. I hope they know it too.
As parents, do we create the emotional space for our children to come to us no matter what, with no fear of rejection even when there is a valid reason to?
May I submit this for your cerebral musing, most Nigerian parents don't just want to deal. They don't want to be seen on the other side of the fence. They believe they have so much to lose at the expense of the most important things in their lives. (Well, I guess that's dependent on who's concerned).
Parents, what happened to us, what happened to our parents? We need to slow down and ask ourselves really pertinent questions.
We are losing our children.
Yet, we are asked to be quiet, don't speak, let alone speak loudly enough to be heard. What are you ashamed off, what did you compromise?
The beautiful thing about truth is, it will always come out clean in due season. Every truth for its day of reckoning.
The Jones's don't care and yet you think they do.
Why must the victim be left to deal with the shame because you trying to maintain?
When we do well, your pedestal is right in front of the house and when we don't.... (fill in the gap).
Please, please and please; let's take time to talk to our children. Let's not repeat the same mistakes like the ones before us made. Let's not be disconnected from their reality or ours. Let's be willing to learn and relearn.
Your loyalty lies first with God, then your nuclear family. That's what you will be held accountable for.
Please stop burying issues under the carpet, we can see the heap anyway. We can't pretend forever, our children are tripping over all the issues under the carpet.
Our loyalty should not be misplaced.
There are so many qualified clinical counsellors that can help families now. (Please comment below if you know any).
I hope it gets brighter again as your truth shines through.
Enough said,
Truly
Modupe
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