I am Fine - Conversations

A friend- hey, how are you?

Me/You - I am fine

A friend - good, just thought to check on you and see how you are doing.

Me/You ( our thoughts) - pls ask me detailed questions, I really do need someone to listen. I have talked to God and I know that He hears but He also uses people.
I'm hurting but I wear a smile always. At least, I think that's what people expect, for me to have it together
But as a woman, I am pulled at from all sides and usually the recipient of most things adverse.
Please give me a big reassuring hug when you see me
Please ask about my how my children are really doing
Please ask if there is anything I need financially
Please bless me though I look like I have it all
Please dig a little deeper when you see me and don't take FINE alone for an answer
Please ask how my marriage is doing

Above all, ask me if I am doing ok with the things that concern me and if my dreams are been realised.

Pray for me when I still say FINE and you know something is up but can't place your hand on what it is exactly.
I might just need your shoulders to say my prayers on
If your shoulders are not strong enough yet, pls raise your hand so we can touch heaven together

Friend - ok see you soon and take care. 


Always check on a friend per month to find out how FINE they are.

Let's not internalise everything even if can say how you really feel without being overwhelmed, you can call a friend, write or just do what you need to do not to reach breaking point.

I am here for you, my friend. If you see me as one, I am here for you.
I am willing to hear and cry with you. So that in the end I can share your laughter with you.



Then we can both be FINE, one friend at a time

Comments

  1. KAO7 July 2011 at 22:43

    I echo your sentiments! We all need a good friend who will listen, advise and comfort. No one is an island. And God absolutely uses the people he has placed in our lives. The best way to get great friends is to BE ONE.


    KAO

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