Feminine Lines

    Relationships are beautiful. Most are unique and peculiar to those involved. Those involved usually write their own norm. I can safely assume that they are usually guided by their own core values and common interests.      Now, that's all well and dandy until a screw comes loose in someone's grey matter or the breeze from their village settled in their front room.      I have written in the past  read more here about women in families been the enablers of evil things they themselves will not tolerate or wish upon their female children. Simply, because the person is your sibling or relative doesn't make them right. Yes, you can be loyal but you can also be just.     Now to my main point, I have heard of this scenario a few times more than I would like to. How is that after you have been physically abused and your safety or self worth has been compromised; are we asking the victim to apologize to the perpetrator. In layman's E...

     Why in the world, would a father not know the names of the school his children attend? There are some questions that I would like to ask the women that are around these men. Do you know if he is in touch with his children; do you know if he is providing for his children consistently; do you know if he is aware of the state of their health, do you know if he knows? Are you now married to him and not asking about his children from his previous relationship?      If you are a sister, mother, sister in-law, friend, new wife/girlfriend, cousin or grandma etc to any man; please ask him regularly about his children. Please do hold him accountable every time you see him.      I know it sounds odd, let me expand. I have seen this happen with men who are no longer with the mothers of their children. They have no clear concrete knowledge or current information on their children. They know the airy fairy stuff. The things that keeps the mothe...

  I have two beautiful and unique girls. I also have two beautiful and unique set of hopes and dreams for them both.      In the barest minimum, I would like the following for them To be loved To be fed To be live in a loving home To feel secure To be educated To be able to play  To have room to express their individuality  To know that there is a possibility for their dreams to become a reality  To foster loving and lasting relationships with others Above all freedom of worship      I think I have mentioned a few of the the ones that immediately come to mind, there are a lot more. Now to my main point and concern in our society, the issue of 'Modern Slavery' which has been widely accepted as normal and yet widely ignored. This is especially rampant with those that get hired help. Most parents will not put their own children through what they put their maids or hired helps through.    We bring girls and boys ...

Take off your clothes and yes your pant. put on the robe when you are done. take off your shoes here and come in. lie down on the bed and LEGS UP pls. one nurse on my side and the gynae(male) and the other nurse beside him in front of my prized possession. if you are like me and it took 4yrs to summon up the courage to do a pap smear (smear test) then welcome to the club. i know how important it is to do one every three years or after delivery or if you are sexually active. but seeing that it took me 4yrs, obviously i was nervous. i told myself over and over not to panic, just try to relax and zone out, telling myself it would soon be over. over it wasnt, when after 10mins, they were still prying and tugging for a sample swab from the tip of my cervix because .......................(blah blah blah) but i was determined to go through this one as my 2 previous smears had been inconclusive. i had just wished they put me under to do the test. at least i think tha...

As a makeup artist, I can creatively cover up a multitude of scars except these. I can't cover the bruise to your soul, the bend to your emotions. I haven't found the concealer that can cover the tears from yester years' brutality. I haven't seen the eye shadow that can compliment the pain I see in your eyes, the gateway to your soul. You are so beautiful that you could do without colour cosmetics but yet you opt in on the excess just to put up some swag to detract from the issues. But I cherish your courage when you strip all butt naked down for me to see. I thank you my X, Y & Z friends for the trust you bestowed in me when the sheer nudity of your issues is painful to imagine let alone see. I will pray with you and for you. I feel your pain. But trust me the makeup won't cover it for long. Take out time to restore, take out time for you. Take out time to heal. Bear in mind that you are wonderfully made. Really, makeup can only work with what you have. You are...

She's beautiful, strong but yet fragile Her arms are wide enough to love all those that reach out for it She can sell her soul in righteousness to feed the ones she loves without even eating from the sale. Yet sometimes un(der)appreciated by the same ones that ate from the same sale of her soul. I am she, you are she, you know she, we are she I salute me, I salute you, I praise you, you are WORTH it The recipients of your enormous and continual sacrifice may not fully appreciate you now. But I know you are WORTH it It would all be worth it in the end I promise. There is no bitch in the karma coming your way, its all good baby, its all good. Your time and place to shine will come because you are worth it Indeed you are wonderfully made Don't let the few that don't appreciate you hinder you from the blessing those that so greatly do. Trust me, this too shall pass. Just hold on, and if you need a hand to hold, here's mine; cause you are WORTH it. But please, r...

Wow, its been a minute! Had all kinds of things going on at once. I think the worst was my laptop crashing. We made a few changes in my first child's education recently and I was amazed at some of the reactions and feedback I got. I am surprised as to the lack of common knowledge amongst us first time parents. I been one of them, now I am asking so many questions from everyone. We need to talk more amongst our close group of friends that have children in the same age group and find out what learning standards are out there for  them. I know we don't generally like to compare our children but its important to compare the standards they are receiving especially in school and the like. Its important to do before its too late so as to make any recommended changes no matter the cost. If you don't pay now, you would most definitely pay later. If you don't have a close group, start one now or join one. Please. Our children are one of our most treasured investment with t...